Dreams. Everybody has them, but not everybody REMEMBERS them. I am one of the lucky ones (maybe not so lucky at the same time, because of the clarity of my nightmares) - that is, I remember each and every dream in crystal clear detail, like it was something in a movie I just watched. It is a very rare occurance when I do not remember my dreams, though it does happen, and generally freaks me out every time it does. Though, I do find I feel more rested when I don't remember my dreams.
My general view on dreams is that they are a reflection of what a person is currently going through with their life at that point in time. Stress, anxiety, sadness, excitement, happiness, wonder... it can all filter through into our dream-selves, and what happens to us while we're asleep. Sometimes, finding that link to our real lives can be a little difficult, but when you do find it, it's time to do a facepalm - Dreams aren't discriminatory when it comes to what they're going to be about. A wink wink.
I am someone who always asks others about their dreams, and isn't generally afraid to spill about my own. So, I'm pretty happy about my boyfriend's decision to work on dream recall. He is now getting into the habit of writing down whatever he remembers as soon as he wakes up, so as to get more accustomed to his dream patterns, and more comfortable with the fact that he actually does have dreams (despite not remembering the way he'd like to.) After his dream recall is up to snuff, he's going to try something that I'd like to figure out a little better too; lucid dreaming. Now, before you freak out, it IS possible to "wake up" still inside a dream and realize that you're dreaming. I've done it a few times before, by accident, and either a) had way too much fun or b) Effed it up because I tried to hard to force it, therefore waking my brain up too much and just coming entirely to my senses for the day. It's difficult to strike a balance. Some suggestions at learning to do it are pausing to do a "reality check" in-dream, meaning attempting to do something that would be impossible anywhere but in a dream. So, putting your hand through a wall, flying, etc. I think that I don't stop to try these while dreaming is because I can't grasp that I'm dreaming very often. I just accept things because they look so real, and are so detailed. I wish I could though; I'd put myself an hour from here, with someone I miss.
If you're interested in reading further on the topic, there are a variety of websites and books available. Like for example, here and here. And here, if you want. And those are only three places to read up on it; there are tons of other resources out there.
If it was always possible to control your dreams, what would you do?
-Bee